separation or divorce are a difficult time for children to understand, accept, to be developed. While your couple's relationship ends, not ends But your role as parents. And this is what your children look to you and that is most important to them. Below is a list of what a child of separated parents expect from his mother and his father. I think it could be useful to take the role of children and understand their point of view.
- I need you both get involved in my life. Please write letters, make phone calls, and do me a lot of questions. When you are away, I feel like I'm not as important if not actually loved me.
- Please stop arguing and fit it all to get along with each con l'altro. Cercate di trovare un accordo sulle questioni che mi riguardano. Quando litigate per me, penso che ho fatto qualcosa di sbagliato e mi sento in colpa.
- Voglio amarvi entrambi e voglio godere del tempo che trascorro con ciascuno di voi. Per favore supportate me e il tempo che trascorro con ciascuno di voi. Se vi comportate da gelosi o arrabbiati, mi sento come se avessi bisogno di prendere posizione e di amare di più un genitore rispetto all'altro.
- Per favore comunicate direttamente tra di voi in modo che io non debba inviare messaggi avanti e indietro da un genitore all'altro.
- Quando parlate dell'altro mio genitore agli altri, per favore dite solo beautiful things, or do not say anything. When you say bad things on 'My other parent, I feel as if you waited until it takes your parts.
- I remind you that I want both sides of my life. I count on you mom and dad for supporting me, to teach what is important and to help me when I have problems.
"What I need from my mom and dad - a child's list of wants" from "Helping Children Understand Divorce," University of Missouri.
Introduction and translation by Dr. Bottaro
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