ANXIETY
Problem
All we care about. The worry is normal and healthy sometimes. When the fears continue for several days or weeks, however, or when they interfere with our ability to carry out normal activities of daily living, we need help to deal with them. Children of divorced parents often struggle with anxiety.
The anxiety stems from feelings of abandonment, da cambiamenti delle condizioni di vita, da imbarazzo, da senso di colpa, da preoccupazione per ulteriori separazioni, e da una paura ossessiva di problemi sconosciuti che potrebbero essere in agguato da qualche parte e presentarsi nel futuro.
Alcuni dei sintomi fisici dell' ansia persistente sono nausea, diarrea, mal di testa e capogiri, così come (in particolare nei bambini più piccoli) succhiarsi il pollice e bagnare il letto. I bambini che soffrono di ansia spesso diventano esigenti o appiccicosi, e possono tirarsi indietro da amicizie preesistenti con i loro coetanei.
First, address your feelings of anxiety is perfectly normal, with someone other than your child. The child has enough problems to deal with without having to be your counselor or confidant. Do not be afraid to ask your child to talk about her fears, and be willing to listen to them all.
Be willing to listen and respond to the same fears over and over again. If you have already explained before something your child does not mean that their fear is still there. Your child may need to express it again and again to hear your explanation.
Mantra listen to your child, be realistic in responding to the fears expressed. If the fear is that the mother is not coming back, and I honestly do not know if the mother will never come back, you need to say. For the same reason, of course, any time you can offer reassurance that a fear will come true, do it with patience, logic and accurately.
Do whatever you can, within the limits that the situation related to divorce you, to give your child a stable environment. Is your child overwhelmed by all the changes in his life. Anything you can do to minimize the changes, especially in the first critical months after separation, alleviate the anxiety of your child.
