Thursday, November 5, 2009

Birthday Clip Art Funny

Le emozioni dei figli di genitori separati: RABBIA

ANGER

The problem

Children whose parents are divorcing may have much to be angry. Almost every child is going through a divorce dei genitori è un bambino arrabbiato. Ci possono essere delle eccezioni, ma non molte.

Non sottovalutate se il vostro bambino sembra adeguarsi al divorzio senza rabbia. Molti bambini, che sono il ritratto della calma, che mostrano anche un comportamento allegro nei confronti del divorzio stanno ribollendo dentro e in seguito potrebbero esprimere la loro rabbia in modi distruttivi, come la depressione (i professionisti della salute mentale la chiamano "rabbia rivolta verso l'interno"), l'abuso di sostanze, e/o la delinquenza. Inoltre, la rabbia repressa si mostra spesso mascherata da malattia, ad esempio, mal di testa, insonnia, nausea e diarrea.



Cosa fare



Trovate dei ways in which both you and your children can better understand the anger. Mostly it is necessary to both understand that anger is a feeling normal, appropriate and healthy. Neither you nor your child you must try to suppress feelings of anger. What both need to do is to develop healthy ways of dealing with anger as behavior, so that it does not harm people or property.

We can all benefit from talking more about our feelings, especially angry children. The problem for you is that this requires a better armor.

>> Could you do to hear your child say, "I am angry with you" or "I hate you" without feeling the need to defend yourself?

>> Could you do to hear your child say, "I hate Dad (or Mom)," without stopping to express agreement or disagreement?

>> Could you do hear your child talking about how he or she is miserable without interrupting to solve the problem?

If you would succeed, fine. Otherwise, it is preferable that you take your child to someone who can help.

The need to address the anger in a constructive way is particularly crucial with absent fathers. This means that mothers should allow (and sometimes forcing the hand), the meeting with the fathers and the fathers are allow children to express their anger directly. If you are an absent father, trying to be a model for your child constructive expression of anger talking about your anger (but not anger toward the child's mother), openly and honestly.

Source:

Getting Your Children Through Your Divorce, http://www.divorceinfo.com/

Translation by Dr. Ida Bottaro

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Container Boat Blueprints

lotuses, pears, bananas and kiwi

a short story ...
I was in the country and my father went to ask a farmer about a spare part for a tractor ... the farmer was in his lovely garden with beautiful trees and flowering lotus. We asked advice cultivation ... at the end of his explanations added, however: the lilies are harvested totally immature and then "bored". Stove?? ... and that means , I ask him, and he <... be se non lo sai fare è difficile spiegartelo comunque devi metterli in una stanza ben chiusa o sotto una coperta, poi metti delle pietre di acetilene al centro, che sprigionando gas li faranno maturare...>

then I started a little research and I found that it is a common practice for different types of fruit you like here with the Italian law regulating the practice (http:// www.lexambiente.it/article-print-1882.html ) even if it is considered a non-toxic gas, but with narcotic action ....

Monday, November 2, 2009

Wooden Swing Set Plans

Di cosa ho bisogno da mamma e papà - Lista dei bisogni di un bambino figlio di genitori separati

separation or divorce are a difficult time for children to understand, accept, to be developed. While your couple's relationship ends, not ends But your role as parents. And this is what your children look to you and that is most important to them. Below is a list of what a child of separated parents expect from his mother and his father. I think it could be useful to take the role of children and understand their point of view.

  • I need you both get involved in my life. Please write letters, make phone calls, and do me a lot of questions. When you are away, I feel like I'm not as important if not actually loved me.
  • Please stop arguing and fit it all to get along with each con l'altro. Cercate di trovare un accordo sulle questioni che mi riguardano. Quando litigate per me, penso che ho fatto qualcosa di sbagliato e mi sento in colpa.

  • Voglio amarvi entrambi e voglio godere del tempo che trascorro con ciascuno di voi. Per favore supportate me e il tempo che trascorro con ciascuno di voi. Se vi comportate da gelosi o arrabbiati, mi sento come se avessi bisogno di prendere posizione e di amare di più un genitore rispetto all'altro.

  • Per favore comunicate direttamente tra di voi in modo che io non debba inviare messaggi avanti e indietro da un genitore all'altro.

  • Quando parlate dell'altro mio genitore agli altri, per favore dite solo beautiful things, or do not say anything. When you say bad things on 'My other parent, I feel as if you waited until it takes your parts.
  • I remind you that I want both sides of my life. I count on you mom and dad for supporting me, to teach what is important and to help me when I have problems.

"What I need from my mom and dad - a child's list of wants" from "Helping Children Understand Divorce," University of Missouri.

Introduction and translation by Dr. Bottaro

Related stories:

How to tell your children about separation or divorce

Children of divorced parents more likely to panic attacks